Happy International Women’s Day 2009 at 888ladies
Hello my dear roomies!
CONGRATULATIONS!
This is a very special post for me, as we are celebrating a very significant day for women all around the world: International Women’s Day.
Today, Sunday, March 8th, women around the globe, are celebrating the economic, political and social achievements of women past, present and future. This special day has been celebrated since 1911 and we are proud to celebrate it here, at 888ladies.com.
We live in a wonderful era for women, which allows us to manifest our many talents & fulfill our dreams. Of course, many more obstacles remain, but clearly it’s the strong women throughout the centuries that have brought us this far.
In honor of this special day, we would like to honor YOU, our wonderful ladies, and hear YOUR stories of great achievements, triumphs and “in spite all” successes.
Please share your stories with us by leaving a comment here, at this post. You are also welcome to share them in the chat rooms and inspire us.
And of course… since it is Bingo!!!!!! I will personally give the first 30 valid stories 1,000 LPs and the winning and most inspiring one will get 5,000 LPs. This special activity will end on Tuesday, March 10th.
GL and WTG!
Your ever loving HappyHourFairy
27 comments
For 17 years i was in a very abusive and controlling marriage…through those years i had many a beating and broken bones….6yrs ago i made a new friend at work who helped me see that i didnt have to stay in that marriage ,he showed me i was strong enough to leave and deserved better….and he was right i did leave and get a divorce….now i have moved to the coast and in 8 weeks time im marrying my friend and my life is happy…..
I have also written a book about my life which i am waiting to publish in the hope it will inspire other women in similar situation.
like jencat i was in an abusive marriage .i left and raised 4 kids on my own with the help of my amazing family i did this .i used drink and drugs to get through daily life but slowly my life started to become clearer .i met ollie 5 years ago and he has become a wonderful dad to my kids he was also there last year when i had cervical cancer ,without him and my family especially my sister nic .yidarmy. i would of fell apart again .ive recently achieved my dream of working with adults with learning difficulties,and wake each day blessed and stronger that im still here watching my kids grow and having the love of my family .so if i can do it then all those ladies who read this can do 2 ..love to all from lynda xxxx
I at the age of 14 gave birth to a son nicky who was born with a cleft lip and palate and also severe hearing problems which ment that from the age of 3 months he had to wear a hearing aids.
With the support of my family I as a single parent continued to go to school raise my son and also look after him after his various operations.
I left school in 2001 with 9 gcses (2 b,s and 7 c,s) I worked hard for my son I didnt want to be another teenage parent that people could stereotype I wanted to prove my worth as a parent and a person. Things were tough but my god were worth it and i would do them all again in a second.
Oh and can i say lynda35 youre an amazing woman to have gotten over everything in your life and jen you too hun i want a copy of that book when it gets published!
just like lynda and jencat i was in an abusive relationship for many yrs and as a result of that my eldest son started to have seizures and my youngest son was born with slight brain damage because of my abusive ex i managed to get away and stayed on my own for a while my 2 children managed to recover from what they have seen with no lasting effects on them although my youngest son still has problems he has overcome leaps and bounds then i met adam and at 1st we were just good freinds but over the yrs we new we had feelings for each other and now adam is my husband we have been married for 2 yrs now and cudnt of asked for a better person in my life i am now training in forensics wich has been a long term goal for me and with my family,s help i have acheived success luv to all at 888ladies xxxxx
From an early age all I can rember is being sexualy abussed by my dad, grandad and uncle when i was 10 my dad offerd me to his friend, thankfully nothing happend. When i was 16 it stoped as I was not going to let it continue I realised that it was wrong but not my fault, I wasnt my dadies special little girl anymore and I cant say how wonderful that was. I got drunk one night and got into a fight got arrested with my mate and was rightly charged with assualt, then my mate told my secrect, there were bad reprcusions, my dad was arrested and sent to prison for 6 months, nithing happend to the others,my faimly hated me all except my beloved nan, when my dad came out he didnt live much longer he dropped dead in my moms arms, I was blamed I did feel guilty for all the times lost had non off it happend, but thats not my fault, did I love my dad, with all my heart, when he was doing it I had to think of him as a stranger when he wasnt he was ny dad and i adored him . When i was 21 I had my first daughter her dad denied her but i didnt care she was all mine,when i was 23 i had my second daughter and met my wonderful man whom i call my hubby, he along with my girls are my life. When i was 29 I had to have a hysterctomy due to cervical cancer. do i feel cheated not to have another child, the answer is no. that was my destiny. My daughters are stong minded and no they can tell me any thing, there is no secrects.they both want carrers so I know I have done right by them, I know have to help my neices who dont have a good home life but they know were i am and my door will always open.
Do I feel bitter about my past or a victem the answer is simple NO, I am a survivor and will never be a victim. I love my life warts and all, but most of all I love my little family. They are my world with out them I am nothing.
My message is , dont let life make you a victim be strong and be happy.xxxx
Oh and love all 888 roomiessssssss.
i was in and out of carefrom birth and sexualy abused for 10 yrs but at 16 my step dad put me ina comma when i left hospital i left home and lost a baby girl and i have never had a family to look after me everything ive done and achieved ive done on my own , ive raised 5 wonderfull children and 2 disabled boys im now battling lung disease but im strong and it wont beat me , i refuse to come this far and give up .pls those going through a tuff time stay strong u can do it i did …. lovefrom lisaxxxxxxx
I just wanted to say all of these have touched me deeply i have been in tears reading them you are all so strong to speak about yr past and i admire all of you for who you are today you are an inspiration to us all you are all very strong, i love you all xxx lisav29
I dont speak to my father as he physically and mentaly abused me, my mum and my brother. We laft him when i was 9 and 4 years ago i heard he’d had both legs amputated i felt nothing. my mum is my life and always will be i do not need the man who calls himself my father. I met my childrens father at 15 had my daughter at 17 i later had a son with him. I was with him for 13 years. In that time he was violent and racist and all in front of my chldren. In time i got strong, worked during the day and despite his efforts to stop me i went back to college at night and qualified as a legal secretary. With this i gained confidence and finally three years ago i left with my two children who at the tme were 11 and 6. Even now he still wont leave us alone. I have since been diagnosed with accholasia a illness which affects my eating. It is a rare condition to which i have had a failed operation. Because of this condidtion i then devolped pnemonia last year and was admitted to hospital. At the moment i am well and coping and me and my children are happy. I thank all im my life for supporting me but most of all i thank my children as without them i know i would not have the drive to succeed. Any time i felt i could not do this anymore they were and still are my reason for living and that makes me happy and proud to be who i am. I intended to live a happy and full life and each day i strive to acheive that. thanks for letting me share love sarah aka Sassy 30 xxxx
reading your stories ladies had made me realise how lucky i am. you all sound such strong women, and the horrendous things that have happened to you have made you the wonderful strong women you are today. it would have been understandable for anyone of you to let your tormentors win but you were all stronger. i am proud to read your stories and know that i am surrounded by such wonderful 888 ladies xxx
Wow, I am speechless! What amazing stories of courage and determination by you all. You ladies have been through things that no-one should not have to read about never mind experience.
The eloquence with which you all have expressed yourself as well as the fact that most of you have managed to overcome, in some way, the horrific acts against you has gained my complete admiration and respect.
I am honoured to know each one of you at 888ladies and I hope that your stories of courage will inspire other 888ladies who may be in similar situations (G-d Forbid) and currently can’t see a way out.
I am personally very lucky to not have travelled on similar journies to you ladies and it makes me count my blessings even more.
To my wonderful strong & brave ladies,
You have brought tears to my eyes.
You are the most amazing, strongest & incredible ladies I’ve ever met.
I am proud to read your stories and be one of you.
I am sending you big strong hugs.
The Happy Hour Fairy
I WAS ALSO A SEXUALLY ABUSED CHILD FROM THE AGE OF 7, I DREADED BEING LEFT ALONE WITH THIS MAN, I GANIED THE STRENGTH THO TO SPEAK OUT WHEN I WAS 17 AND HE WAS JAILED FOR 6YRS, COS OF THE ABUSE I WAS TOLD I WOULD NEVER HAVE CHILDREN BUT NOW I HAVE 3 AND A GRANDSON (DONT BELIEVE ALL YA TOLD LOL) MY 1ST HUSBAND WAS MENTALLY CONTROLLING AS WAS SOME PAST BOYFRIENDS, BUT THRU ALL THEIR CRUELTY I GREW STRONG I HAVE NOW BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 17YRS TO MY 2ND HUBBY BRITISHKNIGHT, 2YRS AGO MY DAD SUFFERED A HEART ATTACK AND HASNT BEEN RIGHT SINCE AND MY MUM HAS ALSO HAD BAD HEALTH THIS PAST YEAR SO ASWELL AS WORKING, BEING A MUM, WIFE AND NAN IVE ALSO BEEN HELPING TO LOOK AFTER THEM WHEN THEY NEED ME, ALMOST 4 YRS AGO I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH KIDNEY DISEASE WHICH LED ME INTO DEPRESSION AS I WAS TOLD IT WAS DUE TO INFECTIONS WHILE PREG WITH THE CHILDREN ID BEEN TOLD ID NEVER HAVE, WITH THE SUPPORT OF MY HUBBY, FAMILY AND FRIENDS I LIVE EACH DAY AS IT COMES IM NOW IN THE FINAL STAGE BEFORE RENAL FAILURE BUT WONT WORRY ABOUT THAT TIL IT COMES ALONG THEN DEAL WITH WHAT IT BRINGS, MY PARENTS WILL CELEBRATE THEIR RUBY WEDDING THIS MONTH AND IM NOW ORGANISING AND PAYING FOR A PARTY FOR THEM (IM DOING CATERING ALSO LOL) TO SAY THANK YOU FOR ALL THEIR SUPPORT THRU THE GOOD TIMES AND THE BAD, I WOULD LIKE TO THANK THE MANY PLAYERS ON HERE THAT HAVE SHOWN ME FRIENDSHIP AND MAKE ME LAFF AND FORGET MY PROBLEMS I LUV U ALL XXXXXXXXXXXXX
Wow i’m so touched by what all of you ladies have wrote. I truely admire you all for sharing your stories with us. They are heartbreaking stories and i am honoured to read all about your lives.
I am honoured to have friends like you all here on 888 ladies.
Lets hope the future holds all that you wish for and more because you all deserve it.
Lots of hugs and kisses
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
from fan (as everyone knows me lol)xxxx
After having a bad start as a child, a teacher told me you will never make anything of yourself… but I was determined to find out who I was. Then I was struck down with kidney problems and had it removed at age of 29. I met a fantastic bloke, but he had to accept my past and within a year we married.
Then I found out I could not have children and we went through IVF. First time I got pregnant with twins, We were over the moon but we lost them sadly. Wondered what had I done in a previous life to warrant everything. We tried again on IVF but was told, sorry you will never have children now, we pumped you so full of drugs, your not producing eggs no more.. This was hard to accept and we checked all other avenues before closing the chapter and trying to accept we would never be parents.
Then one Sunday we went to a fete and got talking to a girl which has turned our lives around forever… We got into animal rescue. Helping, fundraising, dog shows, transporting and home checking.
One day we were on a run and was called back for a dog called Buttons a black collie, We took her to the vets for a check before she could enter the kennels and thats as far as we got she came home with us. She had been abused and given drugs and had epilepsy and large lumps. But we fell in love with her. Over the couple of years we had Rosie Buttons, she raised over 7k for animal rescues in the uk. We did shows, dog shows, where she won lots of things and made people smile. Sadly last year we noticed a lump underneath on her and off we went to vets and she had operations costing over 1500 but it was serious and we were told we had weeks left with her… Again we were devastated and tried every route going.. 2 days after the results, we phoned the vets at 2am in the morning and Rosie went to Rainbow Bridge. She went with dignity and our lives were shattered once more…
Everyone was shocked, as we were but she has left a great legacy, In november we fostered some collie puppies very seriously ill, and from 6 days old it was touch and go.. Luckily they all pulled through and have gone on to be strong puppies..
In April we are going to start our own rescue in Rosies Name. Taking on small animals at first and who knows.
God had something else planned for us, not with kids but with animals, it has taken a long time to find our place in this world and Rosie is at peace with the twins playing and free of pain.
Hang in there, something is always around the corner and never give up on your dreams, go for it.
Please read rosies blog and you will see what a fantastic dog she is.
Wow, you are all such incredible woman
I applaud you strength, It takes a very strong woman to
Walk away and make it on their own, I believe with all my heart
for every bad man there are 10 wonderful one’s waiting around the corner.
I think abuse is something learned, the same with love.
We can wipe out abuse in our children’s life time is we teach our
children love not hate, Teach your girls it is never ok for a man to abuse her.
teach your son’s it is never ok to hit a woman.
God Bless you all
Chica
WOW ladies you are an insperaton to all
i think many people would admit it takes courage to survive your experiences,but i think you all have exceptional courage to lay yourselves bare in the hope that your stories might help other people.
Ladies i take my hat off to you all.
May all your hopes and dreams come true
because you all surely deserve every happiness that comes your way.
Sending much love to you all,
Marie aka kirstiemom
xxxxxxxxxxx
This how I battled against the odds,
On this fateful evening, a Tuesday at 8pm, I was in the kitchen looking for something to drink for medicinal purposes, when I realized that we had no beer in the house.
I could not find any anywhere. I checked the fridge and all my secret hiding places, to no avail, my mind was a tic
king check the tumble dryer, nothing what should I do. I shouted up to my husband who was having the last beer in the bath and he refused to go to the Tesco express to get me any. How on earth was I going to be able to play bingo on 888ladies without my beer on my night in.
So I had to think hard how I was going to manage this task.
I put my coat on and shoes and headed for the car. No, I realized as I walked the whole three steps to get to the vehicle, I did not have my keyssss.
Upset I went back to the house to retrieve the said item and dashed to the car.
I started the engine and reversed out of my driveway.Oh no I thought, which route should I take to the whole 1/2 a mile to said local convenience store, left or right? Breathing in deeply ,I indicated right.
I proceeded down the road to a right turn onto a roundabout, indicating, I took the 3rd exit. The traffic was heavy but I managed to drive. Another right turn and I would be there, kept running though my head. I will manage to get there.
Pulling up outside the shop I fumbled in my coat pocket for the money I jumped from the car, and made my way to the beverages. There it was the beerrrrrrr.I took the beverage to the checkout, paid and returned to the car .Driving home I felt a sense of achievement.
Walking in the house I planted my bum on the chair and logged into the bingo site, and pulled the ring pull. I had done it.
I had succeeded in this mission by the grace of God.
That’s how I battled against the odds.
By Claregat.
Although i have written this in jest, i really do admire all the things that you roomies have had to endure and battle though You all deserve to be happy and the courage you all have is exceptional. I wish you all the best always mwah.
i just want to say how brave and strong you ladies are i carnt begin to imagine how your lifes must of been like ive done nothing but cry thinking of the things you must of gone through nobody should ever have to go through it all my love xxxxxx
I just have 2 comment on claregat’s story. Clare you truely are a nutter and you make me laugh so much with your comical stories and i love you for that. I hope your journey was worth the while and enjoy your beer hun lmao.
You are one of a kind, when god made you the well and truely broke the mould lol.
I love ya loads for making me smile and laugh everyday when ur on mwahhhhhhhhhhhhh xxxxxxx
hi can i just say to all the stories i sometimes feel sorry for myself but looking at your stories i tell myself to get over it i have 7 wonderful children and a wonderful husband whom i have been married to 4 17 yrs u r all an inspiration to as all and we love you for it keep those heads held high u r all amazin luv yas
I too am a survivor of abuse from childhood and an abusive marriage. I have three wonderful children who have helped me get through some very rough times and some amazing friends too. To anyone who is still in a bad relationship get out of it as soon as you can – it was the best thing I have ever done. I didn’t think I would cope on my own with three children the youngest was 6 at the time but she is 22 now. Looking back I should have done it years before but hey I am very content with my life. You could be too. Love to all 888 ladies xx
wow what touching storys,i had to stop reading them for a while cos i was in tears you are all so strong.i dont think i could have come through anything as traumatic as you all have and still kept my sanity,i wish you all good luck in your lifes.xxxx armo.
Hi everyone.I joined the Army at 18 and could foresee myself serving 22 years, I lived and breathed it. I met my now husband whilst in Germany and fell for him hook line and sinker. We vowed to make a go at it even though we both had pending ‘postings’ to different units in the UK. We managed to stay strong for each other and thought that nothing could come between us but we were both required to do a 6 month tour of IRAQ back in 2003 when it was all kicking off so for 6 months I waited patiently for him and on his return back to the UK I was on another plane going to IRAQ for my 6 month tour. It was a difficult year but we both believed we were worth waiting for and now we are married out of the Army with a beautiful daughter and have never looked back. Always follow your heart not your head xxxx
i was in an abusive marriage for 11 yrs.my husband beat me up every time he went out drinking which was every time he was offwork. he kicked me downstairs and broke my foot when i was pregnant and told me my youngest was not his because he did not have the same hair colour as him.he mentally abuse as well as physically abused me and even on my wedding night had sex with my then best friend.twice i stabbed him but luckily never got in trouble for it. i have now met darren who is the kindest person i have ever met and who would never hurt me.
my name is rachel by the way
Wow, so many sad, but inspiring stories. My story has the bad guy in it, mental abuse etc. Finally got the courage to get rid of him and got stronger and more determined. I needed that strength when my beautiful son was widowed at the age of 23, just 1 year after he married the love of his life. Not only did I have to witness the anguish of my heartbroken son whilst grieving for my beloved daughter-in-law, but the whole family seemed to fall apart. My Mum died a year to the day of my daughter-in-law dying and then my sister, who lives in France had a nervous breakdown 3 months later. I had here living with me for a long time. I truly do not know how my son and I came through it, but that was 10 years ago. He is finally courting again and I have met a wonderful man I married 18 months ago. Sometimes, looking back, it seems like a bad dream. In reality it truly was a nightmare, but the bad times do make you strong to get through the really awful times. And the bad guy I told you about at the begining, well I guess I owe him in strange way because of his treatment of me has given me the strength to get through it all. From total, utter despair we are both learning to live and love again. Be happy 888 ladies xxx
what sad stories you all had to tell,
makes me realise how lucky in life i
have been.your life stories realy touched
me, and i think every one of you are so
brave,i wish you all well with the lives
you are now living,god bless everyone
of you.xxxx
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